MARRIAGE According to the World
According to the Lord
According to Merriam-Webster, ADULTERY is "voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband."  However, are you aware that it is possible to commit adultery, in the eyes of the Lord, with the husband or wife you are legally married to?  Sounds preposterous, doesn't it?  Consider this passage.
Matt 19:9  "And I say to you, whoever  divorces  his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery."

The man in this example, who divorces his wife, is NOT accused of any adultery while married to her.  Let me say it another way.  This man did NOT commit adultery while married to his first wife.  Nowhere in this passage does it even hint that he had sexual relations with someone he was not legally married to.

Then how is it that the Word of God accuses him of adultery?

This man is committing ADULTERY (God's word, not mine) with his second wife!

It says, "Whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery."  It seems that he only became guilty of adultery when he MARRIED his second "wife".  This man became an adulterer on his wedding night.

Why would the Lord fail to recognize this man's second marriage?

It says, "Whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." "Immorality" here is the Greek word PORNEIA (Strong's #4202).  It is the word we get pornography from.  Evidently, the Lord is saying that this man did not divorce his wife because she was involved in any sexual sin.  Therefore, he has no divorce in God's eyes, and any new sexual relationship he enters is ADULTERY against his first wife.

Why didn't the Lord recognize this man's DIVORCE from his first wife?

Because the man did not have a proper reason (a.k.a. Biblical grounds) for divorcing her.  She wasn't guilty of immorality.  I guess God doesn't recognize divorces for "irreconcilable differences". In fact, that was pretty much the question Jesus was being asked when he came out with this shocking information to begin with.  Let's look at Matthew 19:3-9 in context.

3 And [some] Pharisees came to Him, testing Him, and saying, "Is it lawful [for a man] to  divorce  his wife for any cause at all? Translation:
Is it okay to get a divorce for any old reason, like "irreconcilable differences"?
4 And He answered and said, "Have you not read, that He who created [them] from the beginning made them male and female,  5  and said, 'For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh'?  6  "Consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate. Translation:
If God joined them in marriage, then man CAN NOT (Strong's 3361) separate them through divorce.
7  They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give her a certificate of  divorce  and send [her] away?"  Translation:
Then why did Moses COMMAND us to give her an official divorce certificate?
 8  He said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart, Moses permitted you to  divorce  your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way. 

9  "And I say to you, whoever  divorces  his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery."

Moses NEVER commanded you, Moses LET you divorce your wives for any reason because your hearts were so hard.

I'm telling you right now, you will be guilty of adultery if you divorce your wife for ANY reason other than immorality and then remarry.  It won't be a marriage in God's eyes.

Are there any other scriptures which state that MARRIAGE can actually CAUSE ADULTERY if one isn't divorced for the right reasons?
Matt 5:31  "And it was said, 'Whoever sends his wife away, let him give her a certificate of divorce';  32  but I say to  you   that  everyone who divorces his wife, except for [the] cause of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Here again, we see:

  • The person who divorces for any reason other than the immorality (unchastity*) of their spouse may not remarry. If they did, they would be guilty of adultery.

  • *unchastity is translated from the same Greek word, PORNEIA, Strong's #4202.
We also learn:
  • Whoever MARRIES this person who got the illegal (according to God) divorce is ALSO guilty of adultery.
Let's also look at two more passages which state that an improper MARRIAGE will cause ADULTERY.
Mark 10:2  And [some] Pharisees came up to Him, testing Him, and [began] to question Him whether it was lawful for a man to divorce  a wife.  3  And He answered and said to them, "What did Moses command you?"  4  And they said, "Moses permitted [a man] to write a certificate of divorce  and send [her] away."  5  But Jesus said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment.  6  "But from the beginning of creation, [God] made them male and female.  7  "For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother,  8  and the two shall become one flesh; consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh.  9  "What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."  10  And in the house the disciples [began] questioning Him about this again.  11  And He said to them, "Whoever  divorces  his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her;  12 and if she herself  divorces  her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery."
Luke 16:18  "Everyone who  divorces  his wife and marries another commits adultery; and he who marries one who is  divorced  from a husband commits adultery.

Note:  In these two passages, the exception clause for an allowed divorce is not stated, but both passages state that an improper or illegal marriage following a divorce results in adultery.

Have you ever given your  tacit approval or even your blessing to such an adulterous relationship?  If you have, you are not alone.  Countless churches have been deceived into thinking that if it is a legal marriage in their state, then "God has joined [them] together."
If God calls it ADULTERY, then God has NOT joined them together!
Things to ponder...
  • If God has NOT joined them together, then is it forbidden for man to "put asunder"? 
  • To go a step further, if a couple is in adultery, what do they need to do? 

  • Getting married certainly wasn't the answer, was it? 
  • Can a man leave his wife to marry another woman?
  • Can a woman leave her husband to marry another man?
  • Do people in these types of marriages need to stop their adultery?
  • Would the Lord consider it a "divorce" if He never considered it a "marriage"?
  • Can a person repent from adultery while remaining in the sexual relationship?
  • Is it necessary for a person to have a Biblical God-recognized divorce in order to remarry in a God-joined-together marriage?

  • If we repent from an improper divorce, will God then grant us that improper divorce so we can remarry?
Biblical Grounds for Divorce
Who Can Remarry?

Questions? Comments?